My youngest son has had a dear friend since he was very young. I was always careful not to say he is your best friend but in his heart he was his best friend. Jacobs friend recently began going to a new school. No biggie in our book as many of our friends have made changes over the year including us. Jacob would love to go to this very same school. It isn't a good match for Jacob and therefore he isn't there. Jacob saw his good friend this week and ask him if was making good friends there....his friend said YES! Jacob with his childlike heart said better than me (so wanting that love and acceptance) and the boy said yes a lot better than you. Honestly I can't quit crying. My heart breaks for my son.
I am not the type of mom who hovers over my children's friendships. He has had kids mean rude, mean and I am sure Jacob has made poor choices too. If it is big enough for he and I to talk about than I just usually try to talk him through it and not get more involved other than parenting my son and not going to the child or parent to try and work it out. There are times that might be needed but I tend to air on the side of not very often for that type of thing. Right now every part of me want to call his mom and go you son hurt my son. But you know I am not. If it comes up at some point and I need to share it I will but for today I am just grieving for my son and wishing that life didn't hurt sometimes. It is a lesson he has learned and will continue to from time to time.
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Precious Jacob. My heart is breaking with yours. I am sad that kids sometimes don't even get what they said was mean-spirited. Know I will be praying for Jacob ... and for friends that will treasure him for all that is special about him. Love ya'll.
Jules,
That poor boy! This is the type of thing we went through back in May and June with Em's close friend she has known for a while. My heart was so hurt for her. The mother knew what was going on and I am good friends with her- so it was frustrating that she could see it and decide not to use it as a character building moment.
Then, as a mom you want to protect your child from this hurt. The learning is the hardest part. You are doing the right thing by letting it ride its course out. The girl eventually decided she missed Emmy and wanted to be friends again. Now they are back, but I believe wiser in the situation. A lesson learned for all of us, but boy that was so hard to watch my daughter's heart breaking!
I am with you. It will be okay and Jacob will be wiser for it, too. He is a good boy with a sweet heart. This friend probably feels like he has some kind of new toy, but newness wears off and he will be looking for his old friend again soon. Hang in there, Sweet Mommy Julie.
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